The Why –
The How –
The Healing –
Healing takes work. It will not happen on its own.
Time doesn’t heal us. It’s what we do with the time that determines whether or not we heal.
The wounds of Narcissistic abuse are cumulative. They begin in childhood, are exacerbated in early adulthood and life in general, and end with the narcissist preying on those wounds you already have.
The narcissist brings these wounds to the surface, enflaming them in order to further injure you so they can control you and dictate your thoughts and life. This, of course, makes the narcissist feel secure in the power they have over you.
Further, once you’re primed by one narcissist, you become a target for other narcissists. This is due to the way we mold ourselves to conform to the narcissist’s demands and the maladaptive behaviors we develop to avoid the wrath of an abusive partner. This makes us easy targets for other toxic people whose intent is to use, abuse, and manipulate.
Healing our emotional injuries and adapting healthy boundaries and behaviors empowers us in ways that make it more difficult for other manipulators to detect our emotional vulnerabilities. Once we begin standing up for and loving ourselves, we will get rid of anyone who attempts to belittle us or make us small.
As we recover from narcissistic abuse, it’s often hard to tell what healthy boundaries look like because we’ve been conditioned and brainwashed to believe everything we do is done with evil intent or selfish reasons. Through healing, we learn that we can honor ourselves, our wants, and our dreams…and it’s okay. But this discernment only comes through emotional healing.
Below this section is an affirmative writing exercise to help you begin this mission with your final end in mind. Keep your future vision of happiness and health in the foremost of your thoughts throughout your No Contact pilgrimage.
I hope to help you begin your journey of healing with this course.